We have been home from China for 9 days now! The comforts of *home* are still a luxury to us, and I hope we never forget how good we have it here in the U.S.
Selah seems to be doing really well. Her tantrums are fewer, and when she does melt down, she is comforted more easily than in our first several days together.
We took her to church today, which is much earlier than we had planned. Selah’s first phrase in English was, “Lets-a go bye-bye!” The girl LOVES to ride in the car, go to the store, and get out of the house. She had a great day at church! Even got comfortable enough to get down from my arms (and/or Hannah’s) and go run and play. She came up to me frequently calling, “Mama!” She wasn’t mommy-shopping or confused about who she could trust or who was family, so that’s a great sign.
As far as bonding, we are still very much in the “getting to know one another” phase, and we’ll probably be here for months.
I took Selah to the lab early Wednesday for the first of two blood draws – two, because the tech said she could only draw so much blood from a little person to fulfill the many tests that have been ordered for Selah. I stayed in the room and held onto Selah while two techs worked together to draw blood. Selah was upset long before the draw because we were holding her down. And she did have anesthetic patches so the pain would be minimal… Even still, she was scared, and mad.
As soon as the techs were finished, I told Selah “all done,” but she grunted and swatted at me. She was not happy and probably felt very betrayed by me.
When I loaded her into her carseat, she motioned for a basket of toys and a pair of sunglasses that a friend of mine gave to her just the day before. I handed the basket to her and as we drove to the grocery store, Selah was very quiet. I couldn’t get her to smile or say anything back to me.
A few minutes later, I looked back and saw that she had put on her sunglasses – but they were crooked. And she was not smiling at all, just looked back at me with a look that seemed to say, “whatever.” Just the thought of the incredible spunk and strength all wrapped up in that little girl made me laugh! And then, she started laughing right back at me, LOL! I forgot to bring my phone with me that morning, or I would’ve snapped a picture of her in her carseat, but this is how it went that morning:
I told Mike about our morning, and how thankful I was to have shared a laugh with Selah after an intense appointment at the lab. She really is amazing – sassy and spunky, yes – and we are realizing that our life with her will take form and become reality… one memory at a time.
Two more things about Selah: she has endless facial expressions and she loves to learn anything new! Pictured below are some “looks” we get from Selah several times a day, and a picture of Selah learning to pray. :) It is incomprehensible to me that just 3 weeks ago, this smart little treasure lived in an orphanage in a run-down apartment building in Zhengzhou, China.
She *was* one of millions of orphans who just need a family. We are deeply grateful for all of you who prayed, gave, and encouraged this little girl home. Thank you for making a difference in the life of a child!